Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Exhaling in Danmark


The weather has brought out a much happier demeanor in myself, my family and what seems like everyone else I come in contact with. The temperature has been above 50 degrees daily, and often in the 60's since the beginning of April. It's an unusual record for Denmark, but I'll take it. Finally, for the first time since moving here, I am warm. It's different that working up body heat on a bike, or wearing a ski coat with hat and gloves. The sun is penetrating and strong, the flowers are blooming on trees and people are showing skin on arms and legs!

When we arrived last August, the summer had already ended and we encountered rain and winds for the first couple of months, mixed in with a few nice days. I am told April to June are the nicest months, so we'll go out on a high note. Everything just seems to click better now. We're adjusting to most things beautifully and we encounter little stress. Life is good. I just looked at my calendar and May is our last full month living here. Late May and early June I'll have to start organizing our process of moving back to the U.S. but for now, I'm going go savor the freedom, the weather and new friends.

Last week I went on a Copenhagen City Walking Tour with a group of parents from the school. It was quite entertaining and full of city trivia.
For example, the old city streets used to be lower, but in the 17th century everyone threw their garbage on the streets and it piled up and squashed down and eventually the streets got higher. That is why we often have to walk a few steps down to door entrances!





City lights used to be lit by whale blubber! Can you imagine the smell?




And some the streets in the 16th - 18th centuries had open sewers. That plus the garbage made the city really a sight. The water was water was unfit to drink so people drank beer and aquavit (schnapps) because it was safe. Workplaces were mandated to give each employee a large bottle of beer and a small bottle of aquavit at their workstation to quench their thirst. How's that for work efficiency? That's why today still, drinking alcohol is second nature to most Danes. Many individuals drink beer like water, wine is always served with meals and teenagers and adults alike drink excessively. (that could also be why Danes drink the highest amount of coffee per capita than any other country!)




The great city of Copenhagen burned on many occasions, destroying some of the oldest buildings and churches. What's left today are only a handful from the 16th century, a little more from the 17th and quite a bit from the 18th century. According to our walking guide, these fires were caused by timbered buildings, candles and lamps and a strong wind. The constables in charge of unlocking the wells and assisting to put out the fires were usually too drunk to manage the job.







In the oldest church in the old city, St. Peter's, they used to bury the rich in the basement. It was quite a status thing and the more money you had, the closer you were buried to the altar. However, by the 18th century the smell of the graves became too offensive and they stopped the ritual. That's how they came up with the term "stinking rich"!



Bakeries didn't actually bake breads and desserts for the people, they were simply places with ovens where residents could bring their doughs for baking. This is the oldest bakery in Copenhagen. The pretzel and crown sign is a symbol for a trade union, that certifies a guaranteed level of products. Unfortunately for us, they don't serve pretzels...

Behind extremely nondescript doorways lie quiet, private courtyards. some are completely private and others are central areas for older apartments, cafes or other places. Walking in and out of them really gives one the feeling of the city being an intricate maze of cobblestone, alleys, and all the nooks and crannies of the old walled city. You can leave a very busy, noisy road and within minutes inside a courtyard have absolute quiet. It is here we were pointed out to the wall anchors. Since almost all building are made of brick or stone which expands and contracts with the heat and cold, wall anchors are built from one end to the other to keep it from falling apart.

Lastly, commoners used to eat in Guest Houses or neighborhoods inns for their regular meals because most did not have kitchens or do their own cooking. These inns would have long wooden plank tables with bowl-like divets cut into each place-setting at the table. The propieter would serve the meal directly into the "bowl". The fork was attached to the table so it couldn't be stolen. People brought their own knives. So, the fork and bowl were used over and over by different people. With that and the open sewers, no potable drinking water, garbage on the streets, whale blubber for light and smoke from fires the city was a pretty nasty place. No wonder so many people died of disease by the age of 40.

There is much more to tell, but alas, I must return to the 21st century and get my children off to school and myself off to other adventures. Love and Light, Mary Jo
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Wednesday, April 22, 2009

The Cliffs of Moon

Just have to quickly show and tell our family adventure last weekend to the Cliffs of Moon Island. In Danish it is "Mons Klint". They are a set of oceanside cliffs made primarily of chalk, that give off a whitish hue. The Cliffs are on an island south of Zealand, the island where Copenhagen is situated. We went last Saturday along with Maya's friend Madison "Maddy". It was an hour and 45 minute drive, viewing flat farmland as usual, but with budding tree blossoms and green grasses.

There are miles of hiking trails around the top, as well as campsites and places to have lunch. About 170 stairs to take you up to the top of the cliffs for viewing and more hiking. Also very windy. Another set of 500 stairs take you down to the beach where you can walk for long stretches when the tide is out. We arrived for the last bit of easterly sun before the cliffs cast a colder shadow. The girls collected really interesting rocks and the views were so relaxing and peaceful.

We had lunch in the cafe/museum (par for every Danish landmark) and not suprised by beautiful salads and the general quality of cuisine that we find par for the entire country, even in the most remote locations.

We stopped for ice cream on the way back and the girls all fell asleep. Nothing like a road trip nap.

Sunday, after family chore time, we hit Tivoli amusement park right after it opened, around Noon. We bought annual passes at Christmas and now have to use them a lot before we move. The weather was beautiful and there were relatively no lines. Maya went on the bumper cars about 6 times while Molly went on the Demon twice with Craig. I went with them once on the Demon (the roller coaster that does 2 loop-de-loops) and then Molly and I went on a ride that takes you straight up 10 stories high and drops you in 1 second. I don't know where I mustered the courage to do that one, and I was speechless afterward. Molly was fine. She loves thrill.

We've been out in the back yard more and more now that the weather is nicer. We play bocci, throw the softball or practice lacrosse or just hang out. We have daylight around 5 am til almost 9 pm. Our bedtime routine is getting later and later and the girls are waking up later and later because of it.

Maya has a cold this week. Nothing serious, but stayed home one day. Molly powers out the rides to school and back, while Maya prefers the bus when she can weasle out of riding. The funny thing is that it's more convenient and faster by bike!

Craig just spent 2 days in Aarhus and will head to USA for a week on Saturday. He managed to buy a push mower yesterday (on Earth Day!) and got out to work on the jungle last night after his drive home. We've decided to cut it ourself since the professional lawn service was charging us over $200 per cut last fall. The push mower was only $80. It's a cheap, hard to use contraption but we won't have to use it for very long.

62 days until we leave Denmark (70 until we're in USA). It's going by terribly fast. But we're enjoying every day as best we can.

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Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Spring Break in Portland

What a fantastic trip we had in Portland last week! Thanks to all our family and friends who joined us at various times throughout the week for a visit or to share a meal. Even though we are moving back in less than 3 months, the fact was that we hadn't been home in 9 months and that's a very long time to be away. It did our hearts and souls a lot of good to share hugs and kisses and to hear that we've been missed. This family, each of us - has been through our own personal challenges and we needed a trip home more than a trip off to another confusing country. It was so relieving not only to enter our own country where we knew the language and culture, but our own neighborhood where knew the haunts and favorite restuarants, etc. We didn't need our navigation system, to find and check into hotels, wonder where to eat and what tourist excursions to drag the kids on. It was great to be in town and not have domestic or career activities to drag us down. We got to do nothing but see, friends, eat, shop, a few doctor and dentist appointments and the like and then see more friends and family and eat again.

Special Thanks to John and Carole Vranizan, Menendez', our camping buddies (McBarrons, Loux's, Mackies, Osborns and the Hehns), The Fitzpatricks, McCarters, James', Reunerts, Garnands, McDonalds, Linda McCarter, Benschings, Panet-Raymonds, and everybody at Rieke Elementary.

Back in Denmark now for 5 days. My head stayed behind and is slowly catching up with my physical body. The girls adjusted to the time zone very quickly but Craig and I have had several sleepless nights. We should settle after a week or so.

Upon arrival to Copenhagen airport, during the cab ride home and into our house we had an eerie sense of belonging and familiarity that we weren't expecting. We traveled 12 hours around the globe to walk into our house and be "home". It was easy and comfortable this time. Not like the first arrival 9 months ago when we slept on air mattresses in a completely empty flat. We had the same feeling of relief after coming back from our fall trip to Spain, but this spring trip was even stronger. Even though our hearts are in Portland, I can begin to see how we could begin to feel connected to Denmark, or any country for that matter, simply by the sheer fact of time: The longer one spends in one place, the easier it is. (Ergo my 3 generations of family in Portland.)

Maya and Molly instantly jumped back into friends and school with no hesitation. We had Easter Monday off before school and work and the girls quickly arranged playdates. They seem more vibrant, interested in school and excited. Maybe it's their comfort level is better, maybe they are more confident, maybe this spectacular spring weather (that could raise a dead man from the grave!)or maybe they are looking forward to the return to Portland or it could be all of the above.

Craig and I have noticed phenomenal changes in Maya's demeanor. For the first time in her life she's talking about her fears, her feelings and her issues with no prompting from us at all. She's speaking with a mature understanding and clarity that almost seems like it's been incubating inside of her for years. This experience has challenged her and has brought out a new, bolder girl with less anxieties. She has found her voice. Her fifth grade will end with a 6 week long exhibition-project that has begun this week. She seems determined already.

Molly struggles with growing up and still being the baby. She's had to go through a lot for a little girl and hasn't quite reached the threshold where she's comfortable making her own decisions. She constantly needs reassurance. However, at school, she is a leader and empathetic friend. Molly needs to be active and playing all the time. She'll be fine wherever she goes, as long as there's someone to play with. And not her sister. These sisters are sick of each other.

In addition to riding and working out almost daily, I'm planning day trips and weekend excursions for the rest of our stay here. Lots of time checking ferry and train schedules, car routes, sightseeing books, etc. This weekend we're going to the white cliffs of Mons Klint (kind of like the white cliffs of Dover, England - but Danish style) and probably hit Tivoli Amusement park as well. The weather is so uplifting and streams of daylight and sunshine. If you even want to visit Denmark, do it in April - June.

These blog postings are getting harder and harder to write because as time goes on there's less tangible transitions in our day-to-day lives to report about. There's more internal changing that is stewing within that often takes weeks or months to think about and ponder before final oration. The way I feel one day may evolve into another the next. I feel as if I'm practicing "svadyaya" - one of the 8 branches of yoga that involves self study. This practice involves watching and paying attention to your life as you are living it, like writing your manuscript while experiencing it. Often, I need to step away from analyzing and just live. If I blog too much, then I spend more energy on trying to understand instead of on simply living.

Regardless, this experience has been a blessing in our lives and I am grateful for every challenge and joy. Thanks for reading,
Love and Light,
Mary Jo
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